Bringing Back Dating and Romance At-Home
A lot of us, as busy couples, especially those with children, find it really difficult to make time for romance. We’re busy, tired, and lack the privacy in many cases to be able to prioritize demonstrating our love for each other with intention - like the good ol’ days. The money may not be right to get away for a romantic evening or overnight with the partner. Babysitters can be hard to find and can sometimes cost just as much as the activity chosen for the date!
The operative word mentioned above, though, is - intention. Let’s make sure that we are not getting a little lazy in our relationships with our partners. Especially those of us that have a few decades of dwelling with the same person under our belts. The routine of life becomes, well, peaceful. Think about it. You leave your home to go work, run errands, etc. You go out into the world and environment around you, and the entire time you’re out there, you’re in a protective mode. Consider for a minute how heightened that state was during COVID. So, when you enter home again, it’s your safe haven, your respite, your peace - but it’s also your routine, your ordinary. Now, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that because, it’s a blessing to have a home that is a refuge. However, that is all the more reason why we must remember to intentionally date and romance our partners. I am suggesting, though, that the two can be merged. You can, with intention and thought, romance your partner by arranging an at-home date night. Let’s help those with children still at home first.
Childcare
See if a relative can take the kids overnight. If not, ask one of the parents of the children they regularly spend time with if you could swap sleepovers, so you will get a night of privacy with your partner, and they can have the same. Book your dates in advance so everyone is clear about what is supposed to be happening. Now, you empty-nesters have no excuse whatsoever!
Food and Drink
Nothing says romance more than a delicious meal. Of course, you can order in, but consider making the meal together. There’s nothing like the teamwork and casual flow of conversation that takes place. Lately, I’ve been using one of those meal kits that come with all the fresh ingredients and instructions for a gourmet meal and haven’t been disappointed yet. In some cases, you might also enjoy cocktails, champagne, or wine during the evening. Plan it ahead of time, and don’t forget the dessert!
Another option that I just love is to throw down a blanket in the living room - or bedroom (wink, wink) - and have a picnic in your home. Set the mood with candlelight and some nice music in the background because conversation should take place, right? Make conversation fun and effortless by purchasing some of those couples card decks with questions that dig a little deeper and help with a deeper connection.
After The Food & Drink
One thing most people enjoy, and find intimate with a partner, is to massage each other. During the shutdown of 2020, I purchased a massage table, but the edge of the bed works just fine as well. You’ll need a good massage oil made with sweet almond, coconut, or hazelnut oil as the carrier oil and then add a few drops of quality essential oil. Aromatherapy oils such as geranium rose, ylang ylang, or vetiver (my fav) for women and patchouli, cedarwood, or sandalwood for men. Lavender is universal and can be used to create a nice blend in either option. It also promotes relaxation.
Romantic means different things to different people, but there are several things most couples can generally agree on to get them relaxed and in the mood for planned quality time with each other. Set the tone with flowers, candlelight, aromatherapy, silk sheets, or whatever else you and your partner feel is romantic. Thoughtful little gifts are an easy way to show you care. How about sending a romantic text during the day. Heck, it could even be emojis only. The thought counts for a lot when it comes to romance. The point is to, with intention, thoughtfulness, and purpose - date your partner and bring back romance even in your home!